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This week's contributors: Lydia, Doré Fasolati, this week's subjects: What to wear for a summer brunch, The Venue Restaurant at East Legon, When are you getting married, Don’t do it in the dark.

What to wear for a summer brunch. The good news is that brunch is super chill. It's a great excuse to put on some cute clothes, but there's no need to break out your our day dress. The very concept of brunch ignores the rules of traditional meals, so why should there be strict rules about what you can (or can't) wear? Although there's no specific dress code for brunch, most women aim for a classy, chic aesthetic that walks the line between casual and dressy. Depending on the weather, common brunch attire consists of items like skirts, flowy dresses, light jackets, and other lightweight yet stylish and colorful attire. When it comes to summer brunches, dressy shorts are a must-have in your wardrobe.

They're comfortable, versatile, and oh-so-chic. For a polished look, try high-waisted paper bag shorts paired with a flowy blouse or lace corset top for a touch of feminine elegance. Wear a mini dress or sundress with strappy sandals, or a denim jacket and midi skirt for a feminine brunch look. Try a button-down shirt and jeans or patterned shorts and a T-shirt if you prefer a masculine look. Pair a floor-skimming slip dress with some statement earrings for an ultra-classy affair, or keep it low-key by styling a floral maxi with trendy wedges. The options are endless! Just be sure to keep the formality of the restaurant (and your fellow brunch-goers) in mind as you're picking out your ensemble.

The Venue Restaurant at East Legon is a mid-price range cozy restaurant, with a nice bar, plenty of drinks, and some Dutch specialties (the owner is Dutch) like bitterballen (though I am told they are nowhere near the traditional delicacy they used to be) We had a few drinks and snacks at the bar but for our main courses, Tomato Blue Cheese Salad, Spring Rolls, Spaghetti al Pesto (basil pesto, garlic, parmesan) and Pollo Antonio (bacon stuffed chicken breast in a creamy white wine and mushroom sauce) we sat at a quiet table. I had a very nice apple cake (another Dutch specialty) as dessert. The food was nice and at the end, the owner himself came to enquire if everything had been ok, and my companion replied that the chicken was too dry. The answer was that that chicken had had to fly all the way from Holland and that anyway, my companion had eaten everything. Dutch directness.....

When are you getting married? If you're not married yet, that's probably the only thing your Mum and elder sisters ask you these days, as if they had a stake in it. “All your sisters are already married”. Why are they not saying “All your uncles have died, when will you die”? Must you marry? In the olden days, this was not a question but a fact. But as Bob Dylan already sang in 1964, “The times they are a changing”. So first of all, marriage is not compulsory, if you are not ready don’t do it. I've seen many who, under this family pressure, married more or less the first guy who proposed, and who are now stuck with a few kids in a relationship where both have nothing really to contribute to the other. Mother, cook, housekeeper, vagina. Have a good look at the (un)happiness some of these married sisters are having and maybe use that to hit back at them. But I think the best way is not to react at all, simply don't answer, just look deep into the eyes. After all, it is your life, and it is for you to avoid getting into one of the many unhappy marriages we see around us. And to not spend the rest of your life (say 50 years), in unhappiness. So if you are not ready? Don’t do it. And with ready I mean that you want to get married because of you, not because of family, and you have figured out what you want and who you want and you think you have found the right man. In that case, congratulations, if not take your time. Next time I'll talk about having children without being married.

Don’t do it in the dark. The invention of the pill made the use of condoms unnecessary but remained the risk of STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), and especially after the appearance of the HIV virus, many wanted to use condoms again. But now that some believe we have a cure for HIV (WE HAVE NOT) the use of condoms went down again. (The many teenagers who get pregnant every year also seem not to mind HIV) A dicey product to invest in, like razor blades which now seem more used by women than by men.

But our friend fashion knows no limits, and Saint Laurent now sells a fashionably $6 condom and there seems to be a Diesel-Durex collab in the making. So keep the light on to admire a well-dressed man. 2 days ago — Saint Laurent is selling branded condoms through its Rive Droite concept store in Paris. The brand's creative director Anthony Vaccarello

Lydia...

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