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The Weekly Lifestyle Blog by Lydia, every Friday at 1700 hrs. Nr 93 29th March 2024

Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things that may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pépinière, this week's subjects: A Tale of Creativity and Appropriation, The Call for Authentic Collaboration and Empowering African Designers, Neckties, Photographers, and Kata Garden Bistro Restaurant.

A Tale of Creativity and Appropriation The Dark Side of Cultural Appropriation Borrowing vs. Appropriation: While cross-cultural inspiration is essential for artistic growth, there's a fine line between appreciation and appropriation. Western fashion brands have often borrowed elements from African aesthetics without proper acknowledgment or respect. From runway shows to high-end boutiques, we've witnessed African-inspired prints, beadwork, and silhouettes being co-opted without involving African designers or communities. The Luxury Fashion Landscape: Luxury brands have been particularly guilty of appropriating African designs. Whether it's using Maasai beadwork in accessories or incorporating Ankara prints into high-end collections, these actions raise questions about ethics, representation, and economic justice. The lack of credit and financial compensation for African creators perpetuates a cycle of exploitation.

The Call for Authentic Collaboration and Empowering African Designers: It's time for a shift. Instead of mere inspiration, Western fashion should actively collaborate with African designers. By partnering with local artisans, supporting sustainable practices, and giving credit where it's due, the industry can foster genuine exchange. Initiatives like Fashion Revolution advocate for transparency, fair wages, and ethical production across the globe. Celebrating Diversity: African fashion is not a monolith. It encompasses 54 countries, each with many unique styles, textiles, and craftsmanship. By celebrating this diversity, Western fashion can move beyond stereotypes and engage in meaningful dialogue. Let's amplify African voices, learn from their creativity, and appreciate the beauty of cultural exchange. African fashion is more than a trend: it's a living legacy. As Western fashion continues to draw inspiration from Africa, let's honor the roots, acknowledge the creators, and celebrate the beauty of collaboration. By weaving together our stories, we can create a global tapestry that reflects the richness of our shared humanity.

Neckties, and “the times they are a changing”. (title of a song by Bob Dylan, 1964). Neckties date back to around 1630 when the French king hired Croatian soldiers (these days we would call them mercenaries) and as part of their uniform, they wore a piece of cloth around their neck. The king liked this neckpiece and made these ties mandatory for royal gatherings. As the elite French monarchy was now wearing them, the custom quickly spread across Europe. Over the years, the style and the design of ties have changed, and in 1923, a tie maker from New York named Jesse Langsdorf patented a new way of cutting fabric on an angle, and then sewing it in three segments to create the Langsdorf Necktie.
Even though the width and length have expanded and shrunken over the years, the Langsdorf original design has remained till today. In the 1930s, the Windsor knot was created by the Duke of Windsor. In the 80s, tie makers created a myriad of different neck-wear styles, and additional lining and interlining to the interior of the tie ensured that the tie lays flatter and neater against the chest, and these ties are easier to knot. But our modern tie has remained almost untouched for 100 years. But then, these days, who wears a tie? I recently came across a René Chagal Myung Ju silk tie, about the most expensive silk commonly available. I have searched René Chagal without result, his ties are widely available, both new and 2nd hand, but it seems René went out of business before the internet was invented, and my search engines give no information on the man. A closer look at the tie shows it cost 15,400 Yen at that time, about 65 US Dollars. But ties are mostly outmoded now, mine was used to bind a roll of foam I bought. RENE CHAGAL MYUNG JU SILK TIE WITH WINDSOR KNOT

Photographers: For a bit of family gathering, we used to hire a photographer and then eagerly wait for the pictures to be brought back, and then ask for copies to be printed for all. The Smartphone has changed all that, but to make sure we are all in the picture, someone else has to take that picture. So either you ask the neighbour to step in (he may demand his part of the food) or you go to a restaurant where you get very experienced photographers, the waiters. A tip is welcome but often not asked for.

Kata Gardens Bistro Restaurant: Tunemete Street, Dzorwulu, Accra. Having heard about this and seen the beautiful pictures of freshly cooked lobsters, we decided to look in on a Monday night. We called to reserve a table and this should have warned us, the lady mentioned that we should make a deposit. This is not unusual at the top restaurants in Europe, after all not showing up may mean an empty table and less income, so often you make a deposit to be taken against your final bill. But this being Ghana and a Monday night, we didn't accept that but drove straight there. We were asked if we had made a reservation (the place was almost empty), and they confirmed that there was no reservation because we had not made a deposit. Then we were asked if we wanted to sit in the open or an airconditioned part, behind glass, we chose that but then again they wanted a deposit. We replied that we did not even know if we wanted to eat there, could they show us the menu or explain the types of food they were selling? Lady Love pointed at a QR code on the table (wonder how much business they did when the internet was off), and we asked for a hard copy, which they did not have, neither was Lady Love ready to talk about the food. So we left it at that and left. Wonder how they will survive, this is Ghana and new restaurants are springing up every day. Maybe a non-Ghanaian setting up a place with rules from a faraway place, or plain whitewashing.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things that may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pépinière, this week's subjects: Black and Proud, The Influence of African Fashion, The Rise of African Aesthetics, Credit Cards, and Pâte à choux Restaurant.

Black and proud, the Olympic games in Paris and sad things happening. French President Macron approached singer Aya Nakamura (955 million views!) to possibly perform at the opening ceremony of the Olympic games in Paris in July this year. Aya is Mali born and black but since an early age a French citizen, and this has provoked shockingly racist reactions, according to the organizing committee of the Paris games, and the Paris prosecutor last Friday launched an official racism investigation. Nakamura has managed the impossible by making songs in French “sound danceable”, yet for a large section of the French population seeing a Black woman embody the nation remains “unthinkable”. Nakamura has achieved remarkable global success and is the most listened-to French artist in the world. How long will we all remain racists? At least 4-5 generations is my guess.

The Influence of African Fashion: A Tale of Creativity and Appropriation: African fashion is a vibrant tapestry woven from centuries of rich cultural heritage, diverse traditions, and artistic expressions. From the intricate beadwork of the Maasai tribes to the bold prints of Ankara fabric, African designers have long been at the forefront of creativity and innovation. However, this creative legacy has not always been celebrated without controversy. In recent years, Western fashion has increasingly drawn inspiration from African designs, leading to a complex interplay of influence, appropriation, and cultural exchange.

The Rise of African Aesthetics Celebrating Heritage: African fashion celebrates diversity, storytelling, and identity. It is deeply rooted in history, spirituality, and community. Traditional garments often carry symbolic meanings, reflecting social status, rituals, and life events. From the flowing kente cloth of Ghana to the geometric patterns of mud cloth from Mali, each piece tells a unique story.

Modern African Designers: In contemporary times, African fashion has become a fusion of traditional African styles and modern Western fashion. African designers blend heritage fabrics, bold colours, and innovative silhouettes to create garments that resonate globally. Brands like LemLem, Maxhosa, and Maki Oh have gained international acclaim for their unique designs that celebrate African culture while pushing boundaries.

Honesty between partners and incest. Unfortunately, some of us were mishandled by brothers, nephews, or uncles, sometimes even by fathers, at a very young age, some as young as only 6-7, some of us for many years. We were told not to report and intimidated into silence, so we kept quiet and carried it with us like it was dirt. If you are one of these, take the opportunity to tell your future husband, talk as much about it as you want, and get rid of this idea that you have a dirty secret. And if he starts to look at you differently? Wrong guy, drop him. You were a vulnerable kid, you are not responsible, not then, never.

Credit Cards, Again: One of the dangers of a credit card is that often you don't immediately get notified that your account is to be debited at the end of the month by so and so much and that your balance will then only be so much, so at the end of the month you may be surprised at what you spent and that you are now overdrawn and are paying interest. You are surprised, and the bank is happy. And one more thing. Assuming you had an authorized overdraft of say 5000 GHS, and paid an interest of 36% per annum on that, (so 150 GHS/month), if you overshoot that credit limit you now pay say 55 % per annum on the overshoot. So if you overshot by 1000 GHC you pay about an extra 46 % per annum on that overshoot, so a total of 150+46=196 GHS. Starts to add up eh? Per year that would be 2352GHS, oeps? Now a little example. Say you earn 10,000 GHS per month. The bank gives you a credit card and an authorized overdraft of 8000 GHS. You dig into that overdraft by 6000 GHS, big spender just pulls out her card and smiles whilst paying. Next month the bank takes the 6000 from your salary, plus the interest, about 180 GHS, and leaves you with only 3820 to spend in the new month. So again you dive into the overdraft, this time it shoots up to 8000 GHS. Next month you end up with only having 10,000 income minus 8000 overdraft minus 240 interest =1760 GHS to spend. You say stop, no more, and bit by bit you get rid of that overdraft, say by paying off 800 GHC per month for 12 months. That would more or less clear it (eh you borrowed 8000 and have to pay back 12 x 800 = 9600? Yes, 1600 interest). Maybe you now understand when they say that someone is working for the bank... And in case you are not good at math and all this sounds a bit too complicated? Then stay away from debt. The bank knows that most of us are not too smart in math, and happily guides you into being an ever-bleeding milk cow. Paid for by who?

Pâte à choux: There's a new restaurant by that name, (Dade Street, Cantonments, Accra), that opened in a few months. Beautiful place and they sell bread and pastries as well and after buying your bread you could have a cup of coffee. Or a milkshake, a bit difficult to get in Accra. We came in the evening and had dinner. I am a bit wary of all these new upscale restaurants, often the quality does not match the price at all. But here we had a pleasant surprise. We had truffle fries which indeed tasted the umami truffle taste and a very interesting goat cheese salad. Goat Cheese Salad Then lemon chicken and jumbo prawns, fresh. Jumbo Prawns The funny thing was that to have a bit of bread with the meal, which is a standard French habit, no dinner without accompanying bread, in this case, we had to purchase a whole bread with which the balance we did “take-away” and which lasted for a week. The service was of level and the prices were of level as well, but not outrageous for what we got. The painful part is the taxes, 24%, and that included a 1% Covid Levy, but then, being obedient citizens we didn’t mind contributing to the construction of whatever our democratically elected Government has in mind to construct for us. Amen.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

Stop Press, Iris Apfel dies at age 102 on 1st march 2024. Now here's an extraordinary story of someone who kept saying “never say die”, though, like all of us, eventually she was wrong. But to become a fashion model at aged 97 is unusual indeed, to say the least . Born Iris Barrel in 1921 in Queens, New York, U.S. as the only child of Samuel Barrel and his Russian-born wife, Sadye (née Asofsky) who owned a fashion boutique she started as a copywriter for Women's Wear Daily, earning $15 a week. She became a businesswoman, interior designer, fashion designer and a model known for her flamboyant style, outspoken personality and oversized eyeglasses. In business she had a career in textiles with her husband, Carl Apfel, including a contract with the White House that spanned nine presidencies. She found the White House to be among the easiest of her clients, as they generally wanted only to replicate what had previously been there. “The one exception, was Jacqueline Kennedy who employed a very famous Parisian designer to gussy up the house and make it a real Frenchie, and the design community went bananas. After that we had to throw it all out and start again”.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pépinière, this week's subjects: March fashion tips, Finances, Air France, Burgers, Smoke and Barrel.

March fashion tips.

Remember, fashion is about expressing your individuality and celebrating your roots. Mix and match these tips to create your own signature style. Enjoy the vibrant colours, textures, and warmth of March with these few tips... 1. Maxi Skirts and Dresses: Flowy maxi skirts and dresses are comfortable and stylish. Choose prints and patterns that resonate with you. 2. African Print Blazers and Jackets: Opt for blazers or lightweight jackets in African prints. They add flair to any outfit, whether paired with jeans or a skirt. 3. Colourful Sandals and Slides: Ditch heavy boots and embrace open-toe sandals or slides. Look for bright colours or intricate beadwork. 4. Embrace Ankara Patterns: Ankara fabrics are richly patterned and versatile. Incorporate them into your wardrobe through dresses, skirts, or tops. 5. Support Local Designers: Explore local markets, concepts stores and streets for unique finds: The number of local concept stores is on the rise due to the increased demand for African fashion brands. Precision O at Farrar Avenue/Kojo Thompson Road, Adabraka has quite an extensive range of African brands like Odefille with beautiful Grande Dame collection and custom-made pieces, Ellen Gwen, Sangal Women, Victoria Grace, Mikoko Deluxe, and Funke Fashion House.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pépinière, this week's subjects: African Fashion: March fashion tips for West African women, Honesty between partners, Regal Chinese Restaurant, Real wine corks and fake cork wine corks.

March fashion tips for West African women **Odefille Grand Dame Collection Remember, fashion is about expressing your individuality and celebrating your roots. Mix and match these tips to create your own signature style. Enjoy the vibrant colors, textures, and warmth of March with these few tips... 1. Maxi Skirts and Dresses: Flowy maxi skirts and dresses are comfortable and stylish. Choose prints and patterns that resonate with you. 2. African Print Blazers and Jackets: Opt for blazers or lightweight jackets in African prints. They add flair to any outfit, whether paired with jeans or a skirt. 3. Colorful Sandals and Slides: Ditch heavy boots and embrace open-toe sandals or slides. Look for bright colors or intricate beadwork. 4. Embrace Ankara Patterns: Ankara fabrics are richly patterned and versatile. Incorporate them into your wardrobe through dresses, skirts, or tops. 5. Support Local Designers: Explore local markets, concepts stores and streets for unique finds: the number of local concept stores is on the rise due to the increased demand for African fashion brands. Precision O, Farrar Avenue/Kojo Thompson Road, Adabraka has quite an extensive range of African brands like Odefille with beautiful Grande Dame collection and custom made pieces, Ellen Gwen, Sangal Women, Victoria Grace, Mikoko Deluxe and Funke Fashion House.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pépinière, this week's subjects: Maintaining composure during love season as a bachelor or spinster, M&S, How backwards were we, 233 Jazz Bar and Grill, Honey Suckle, AFCON tournament.

Maintaining composure during love season as a bachelor or spinster.

As a bachelor or spinster during the lovers' season, maintaining composure can be both empowering and essential. Here are some practical tips to help you navigate this time with grace: 1. Do Not Take It Personally: In stressful situations, avoid perceiving personal persecution or insult where none exists. For instance, if a coworker makes a decision you disagree with, consider it a business choice rather than a personal affront. Everyone has differing ideas, and not all of them are meant as insults against you. 2. Reflect on Past Reactions: Think about previous emotional outbursts. Rarely do such bursts of emotion improve a situation. Reacting impulsively tends to complicate matters. Remember the rule, not the exception. Most often, throwing a fit doesn't lead to positive outcomes. 3. Avoid Assumptions: When upset, we tend to assume the worst behavior from others involved. However, these assumptions may not be true. Anticipating problems can create a self-fulfilling prophecy. For example, after a breakup, assuming friends will turn against you might lead you to distance yourself unnecessarily. 4. Identify the True Source of Frustration: Dig deeper into what's truly bothering you. While a situation may trigger your emotions, it might not address the real issue. Understanding the root cause helps you maintain composure and respond effectively. Remember, being single during lovers' season doesn't mean missing out. Embrace your independence, focus on self-improvement, and celebrate the love you have for yourself and others!

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pepinière, this week's subjects: African Fashion: Breaking Tradition: Why You Should Skip Red on Valentine's Day, Abortions, Why is that branded handbag so expensive, The Afro Lounge at La Palm Royal Beach Hotel, Vinx.

Breaking Tradition: Why You Should Skip Red on Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day—the day of love, passion, and heart-shaped everything. But this year, let's break free from the cliché and ditch the predictable red outfits. Here's why wearing red on Valentine's Day might be overrated, and I've got some alternative colours that will make you stand out in a sea of crimson. Silver: The Cool Alternative Silver is the unsung hero of Valentine's Day hues. Imagine a sleek silver dress with delicate lace detailing—the perfect blend of elegance and modernity. It's unexpected, eye-catching, and a refreshing departure from the usual red. Plus, it's a great excuse to repurpose those holiday season pieces. So, shine bright like a silver star this V-Day! Lavender: Subtle Romance Lavender doesn't get enough credit. It's soft, romantic, and oh-so-chic. Picture yourself in a flowy lavender blouse or a dreamy lilac skirt. Pair it with neutral tones or even a touch of pink. Lavender whispers love without shouting it from the rooftops. Trust me; it's in my top three for Valentine's Day vibes. Pink: Because Flirty Is Always In Pink—the flirtiest colour in the palette. Whether it's blush, bubblegum, or fuchsia, pink exudes playfulness and femininity. If not red, why not pink? Rock a pink sweater, a rosy scarf, or even candy-coloured sneakers. It's like a sweet love note to your wardrobe. White: The Ultimate Versatility White transcends seasons and occasions. Whether you're aiming for chic, laid-back, or sophisticated, white works. Picture a crisp white shirt, a flowing maxi dress, or tailored trousers. It's a canvas waiting for your personal style to shine. And hey, if you're feeling rebellious, throw in some ivory or cream—it's all part of the anti-red movement. Nude: Timeless Elegance (Zendaya Maree Stoermer Coleman) Nude—always a safe bet. Monochromatic nude outfits exude sophistication. Slip into a beige jumpsuit, nude pumps, or a camel-coloured coat. It elongates your legs, flatters your skin tone, and screams understated elegance. Trust me; you can never go wrong with nude. So, this Valentine's Day, let's defy tradition. Put away the red dress, step out in silver, lavender, pink, white, or nude. Be the trendsetter, the rule-breaker, and the one who turns heads for all the right reasons. Love doesn't need a specific colour—it's in the way you carry yourself. Happy Valentine's Day!

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pepinière, this week's subjects: African Fashion: Celebrating Love and Culture, Chemicals or plastics, Shareholders, 233 Jazz Club and Grill.

African Fashion: Celebrating Love and Culture.

Valentine's Day is a time to celebrate love, and what better way to do that than by embracing African fashion? African fashion is rich in culture and history, and it offers a unique and beautiful way to express yourself. Here are some ideas for incorporating African fashion into your Valentine's Day outfit:

  1. Bold prints: African prints are known for their bold and vibrant colors and patterns. Consider wearing a dress or skirt in a colorful African print to make a statement.

  2. Kente cloth: Kente cloth is a traditional Ghanaian fabric that is often worn on special occasions. Consider incorporating Kente cloth into your outfit by wearing a Kente scarf or shawl.

  3. Accessories: African accessories can add a touch of elegance and sophistication to any outfit. Consider wearing a beaded necklace or bracelet, or carrying a woven basket purse.

  4. Ankara: Ankara is a popular African fabric that is often used to make dresses, skirts, and other clothing items. Consider wearing an Ankara dress or skirt for a chic and stylish look. By incorporating African fashion into your Valentine's Day outfit, you can celebrate love and culture in a unique and beautiful way. Remember, fashion is all about expressing yourself and having fun, so don't be afraid to get creative and try new things!

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pepinière, this week's subjects: Wealthy African Fabrics, LVMH, Tomato Restaurant

Wealthy African Fabrics Most people only think of the Dutch Indonesian textile print as African fabrics. But don't know we too have a collection of rich African made fabrics. Here are some of these rich African fabrics:

  • Kente: This fabric originates from Central and West Africa from various ethnic groups such as the Akan people of Ghana or the Kongo people of Congo-Brazzaville. It is made from cotton or silk fibers that are dyed with natural colors such as reds, blues, greens, or yellows. It has a complex pattern of interlocking strips that form geometric shapes or symbols. It is used for wrappers, clothes, Royalty and other traditional attires

  • Aso-oke: This fabric is peculiar to the Yoruba people of Nigeria. It is made from cotton and has a thick and beautiful texture. It is worn during weddings and other special occasions. There is also Aso Oke with more intricate and elaborate designs, used during festivals and ceremonies.

  • Kanga: This fabric is one of the most popular African textiles from East Africa. It is a rectangular shaped, 100% cotton, printed cloth with a brightly colored decorative border around the outside, which also includes a Swahili proverb.

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Lydia's Weekly Lifestyle blog is for today's African girl, so no subject is taboo. My purpose is to share things which may interest today's African girl.

This week's contributors: Lydia, Pépé Pepinière, this week's subjects: How to take care of your African clothing, Sex between your ears, Hormones again, Finances again.

How to take care of your African clothing.

Taking care of your African outfits is important to preserve their quality and appearance. Here are some general tips on how to wash, dry, iron, and store your African print fabrics, and African-made designer clothes.

• Wash your African outfits by hand or in a washing machine in a cold or lukewarm setting. Use a mild detergent or bar soap and avoid bleach or other harsh chemicals. You can also add some salt to the water to help seal the colors and prevent fading. • Dry your African outfits by hanging them or laying them flat on a towel. Avoid direct sunlight or heat sources that can damage the fabric or cause fading. You can also use a dryer on a low heat setting if you prefer. • Iron your African outfits on the inside of the fabric using a cotton setting. This will help preserve the colors and prevent shrinking. You can also use an ironing board and an ironing cloth to protect the fabric from direct contact with the iron. • Store your African outfits in a cool and dry place away from direct sunlight or heat sources. You can fold them neatly or hang them on hangers to prevent wrinkles and creases. You can also use garment bags or boxes to protect them from dust and insects.

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